Today marks exactly one week away from the one year anniversary, when we boarded a plane and flew our daughter across the country to admit her into a residential treatment center. The average stay is 9-12 months, at that moment I could not imagine having my daughter away from us for so long and so far away during the most difficult time in her life.
It seemed wrong
We struggled almost daily with the question “are we doing the right thing?”
Her sister struggled as well “when can sissy come home?” We wish we had an answer for her and for us, our hearts ached.
A full neuro/phych evaluation by a phycologist who works on staff and interacted with her often, revealed a diagnosis of GAD, OCD, major depressive disorder and PTSD. PTSD isn’t that what combat veterans get? How could our 15 year old daughter have PTSD??
The things you learn as parents when your daughter is in treatment can be overwhelming. Shame resilience, Vulnerability, Dr. Brene Brown’s research, Dialectical behavior therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, Exposure therapy…..
The therapy didn’t stop with our daughter
Our entire family has attended four family weekends (which consist of two days of intensive therapy for everyone) to date and weekly family therapy sessions. Identifying the family patterns that didn’t work and creating new ones is key to her recovery.
We all have to shift.
This last year has been full of ups and downs, two steps forward and one step back has been pretty consistent.
There have been many moments where I have felt consumed by fear, anxiety, and deep sadness.
I finally see light
She has replaced her self-harm with positive coping skills, she has learned to ride a horse, and currently takes kick boxing twice a week. She still struggles and will continue to struggle-the goal isn’t to take the difficult things away-only to help her deal with them in a positive way.
She’ll stay in Utah until June 2017 to finish up her sophomore year in school. We continue to work towards the moment when she is healthy enough to return home.